The caller was recently dumped by her boyfriend of two years and has already been down this road with him before. Sisanie asked her what she loved most about this guy and her answer was telling.
“The first thing that just came out of your mouth was ‘I enjoy being in a relationship,’” Sisanie said. “It wasn’t anything to do with him — that should be your first sign right there.”
She then recommend to the caller to read the book Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie.
“It’s all about codependency and it’ll make you stronger,” Sis added, revealing she had a similar experience.
“She’s describing previous relationships before I met Michael,” Sis explained. “I was someone who stayed in relationships out of convenience and out of fear of being alone and so I basically went along when I knew they were treating me like crap. … I just stuck around because I was like ‘I don’t know if I’m gonna get another boyfriend.’ I was so codependent on these relationships and after I read that book, that at the time my therapist told me to read, it changed my life.”
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